Marriage counseling and couples counseling are goal-driven and take time. Today’s corporate culture is “hooked” on urgency where everything is a priority, needs to be done yesterday. This “urgency addiction” has become a way of life, a workaholic culture. Company routine revolves around a series of emergency “fires” that need extinguishing immediately. Employees run from project to project with caffeine energy and buckets of sand. Sprinkling a little sand here, a little there, they feel exhausted at the end of the day, yet cannot point to any specific accomplishment or finished project.
Urgency addiction permeates today’s organizations and affects all who work there. It produces an adrenaline rush of feeling important but soon leads to exhaustion and burnout. Those who attempt to fight it by asking, “But, which one is the priority?” are told, “Everything is a priority.” Employees dance as fast as they can but fall increasingly behind.
Marriage counseling or couples counseling becomes a necessity in an environment that has become increasingly isolated from healthy relationships, entertainment, and even personal time.
Workers try to compensate by taking work home, coming in early, or sacrificing time on weekends to improve productivity with no interruptions. Marriage counseling and couple counseling becomes inevitable because you are living to work rather than working to live. We’ll get to this later.
Taking work home, coming in early, or sacrificing time on weekends is usually rewarded with yet another project, another area of responsibility, and more simmering fires to extinguish.
With COVID, work and home often become the same place leaving little time to resolve relationship issues or for “cooling off” time.
By accepting bonuses, promotions, stock options, and buy-outs, boomers are trapped with “golden handcuffs” that make it difficult to leave, hard to stay, and impossible to say “no.” Money becomes the goal rather than a means to an end. Workers find that each rung of the success ladder only takes them to a higher level of urgency addiction. As one executive explained, “I’m at the top, but I don’t like the view.”
“Work to Live” basically means that you must work to have the time and freedom to enjoy life.
“Work to Live” is an easy trap to fall into and means that your job is no longer essential to you once you return home and that your attention will be on your hobbies and your friends and family. “Work to Live” obviously will give you the time you need for marriage counseling or couples counseling when and where it’s appropriate.
Furthermore, living means working to obtain resources that allow you to be a productive member of society and provide for a comfortable lifestyle.
However, the concept of “live to work” can be understood in two different ways.
Be careful how much you invest yourself in your work.
Sometimes living to work means missing out on all of the good stuff life can offer apart from your job.
You can love your job, and it’s terrific if you do. However, make sure that you don’t overwork yourself.
Take the weekends off.
Don’t work for more than 10–12 hours per day.
Spend more time with your partner.
Go on a vacation
Work on yourself.
Get a new hobby.
Life is never about one thing, so you need to find the perfect balance between everything.
These simple rules will help you to narrow your focus. While unexpected emergencies may occur, you will be much less likely to be in a reactive mode if you take time to plan.
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